What would you do if somebody (you have met only two years ago...) calls you and tells you that she wants to write a book about your life story? It must be a weird experience, somebody wanting to know all about your past, the relationship with your parents, your most wonderful and difficult times, the loves of your lives. Of course I was inspired by this life story because it is an extraordinary and dramatic one and not just happiness and laughter. Although it is not a biography, I have realized very well from the fist moment I called her about this project, that talking about her past would be very emotional, confronting and intense for my friend. Last Tuesday I wrote her an email with a summary of the first few chapters of the book. She replied with:
'Reading this for me feels like looking into a mirror, reflecting images that I love and at the same time images that still hurt me'.
This project is not just 'a hobby' for me. This book is not just fiction, but based on a true story. This true story is not just any story, but the life story of someone I care about. It is about Italy, but not because I love Italy as a tourist, but because I got to know Italy so well that I feel at home and at ease there. Because I have found people there that are interesting, wonderful, intelligent and that have welcomed me in their lives. I am thankful that my friend is willing and brave enough to go through all of this, just because of my book. I want to be careful and sensitive about it. She told me that the book will hopefully even help her to put things in place...I hope so too. Love, M.
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Thursday, October 7, 2010
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
A Great Italian Movie...
Last week I have really felt like I was in the middle of a typical Italian movie; one where life is slow, all senses are being stimulated and relationships truly matter.
If you would have told me upfront that I would meet such a palette of inspiring, interesting people in this small southern Italian village, I would not have believed you! Good friends of my friend came over from Rome, all very nice, intelligent and wonderful people. There were two female teachers (university of Milan), one taking some sort of exam to become a professor. We all felt compassion when the one girl was so stressed out she couldn't eat or sleep and then, of course, we all celebrated with her when the exam was over! The other teacher has won a bronze medal in the Karate World Championships in 1991. Having an enormous passion for the USA, she was the first Italian I have ever heard speaking English with an American accent! The Americans from Utah (one of the most conservative states of the US!), other guests in the B&B, were so liberal and free spirit that we had great conversations and really good laughs. They are still traveling through Italy now with their Italian-American friend.
Two young people (actually from my home town in Holland; how crazy is that??) came over to the agriturismo to have lunch. Next day we were discovering Naples together, as if we had known each other for years already! Last but definitely not least, there was this wonderful German couple, both film producers. Very creative minds, a good sense of humor and great conversations again. She was like the blond version of me, to a point where it got really funny and sometimes even scary! :-). Naples is absolutely amazing and I was happy to finally see more of this beautiful city. It is hectic, dynamic, chaotic, historical, crazy and breathtaking, all at the same time. As I said before, all laws that apply in the rest of Italy do not apply in Naples! You will see whole families on one scooter (all without helmet of course...), policemen driving the police car while being on the phone (correct, forbidden in Italy as well) and people trying to sell you lottery tickets in the street with the help of a life parakeet picking out the lottery ticket for you for good luck...
Coming back by train from Naples, I picked up my Cinquecento (Fiat 500) from a parking lot in Salerno and drove my new friends to the place they were staying. Believe me, I felt like a true Italian. Traffic is crazy as I have said before, especially in the cities, but just do as the Italians do and you are fine! This meant just 'pushing' my small car in between a big line of cars. As a good Italian friend of mine always says: 'Everything fits in Italy!'. Now take that literally, because this means that if there are two lanes but you can fit 4 cars next to each other, the people in southern Italy will.
The best part of this last week however was of course staying with my friend. She and her boyfriend have made me feel very welcome and loved. We have had long, intense conversations in which she told me her life story, which is beyond any fantasy. Of course it wasn't all serious business! We also had great laughs, cocktails and meals together. It all felt so right, that I even decided to stay one extra day, enjoying live Neapolitan music, another delicious meal and good company on Saturday night. After the research I did on the area and the history, I now have all the ingredients to really start writing the novel. The end result will hopefully have a good balance between her life story, my personal experiences in life and my fantasy. Now I can start putting the pieces of the puzzle together and get into the right flow... Love, M.
P.S. You can also follow me on Twitter: http://twitter.com/mirjambs
If you would have told me upfront that I would meet such a palette of inspiring, interesting people in this small southern Italian village, I would not have believed you! Good friends of my friend came over from Rome, all very nice, intelligent and wonderful people. There were two female teachers (university of Milan), one taking some sort of exam to become a professor. We all felt compassion when the one girl was so stressed out she couldn't eat or sleep and then, of course, we all celebrated with her when the exam was over! The other teacher has won a bronze medal in the Karate World Championships in 1991. Having an enormous passion for the USA, she was the first Italian I have ever heard speaking English with an American accent! The Americans from Utah (one of the most conservative states of the US!), other guests in the B&B, were so liberal and free spirit that we had great conversations and really good laughs. They are still traveling through Italy now with their Italian-American friend.
Two young people (actually from my home town in Holland; how crazy is that??) came over to the agriturismo to have lunch. Next day we were discovering Naples together, as if we had known each other for years already! Last but definitely not least, there was this wonderful German couple, both film producers. Very creative minds, a good sense of humor and great conversations again. She was like the blond version of me, to a point where it got really funny and sometimes even scary! :-). Naples is absolutely amazing and I was happy to finally see more of this beautiful city. It is hectic, dynamic, chaotic, historical, crazy and breathtaking, all at the same time. As I said before, all laws that apply in the rest of Italy do not apply in Naples! You will see whole families on one scooter (all without helmet of course...), policemen driving the police car while being on the phone (correct, forbidden in Italy as well) and people trying to sell you lottery tickets in the street with the help of a life parakeet picking out the lottery ticket for you for good luck...
Coming back by train from Naples, I picked up my Cinquecento (Fiat 500) from a parking lot in Salerno and drove my new friends to the place they were staying. Believe me, I felt like a true Italian. Traffic is crazy as I have said before, especially in the cities, but just do as the Italians do and you are fine! This meant just 'pushing' my small car in between a big line of cars. As a good Italian friend of mine always says: 'Everything fits in Italy!'. Now take that literally, because this means that if there are two lanes but you can fit 4 cars next to each other, the people in southern Italy will.
The best part of this last week however was of course staying with my friend. She and her boyfriend have made me feel very welcome and loved. We have had long, intense conversations in which she told me her life story, which is beyond any fantasy. Of course it wasn't all serious business! We also had great laughs, cocktails and meals together. It all felt so right, that I even decided to stay one extra day, enjoying live Neapolitan music, another delicious meal and good company on Saturday night. After the research I did on the area and the history, I now have all the ingredients to really start writing the novel. The end result will hopefully have a good balance between her life story, my personal experiences in life and my fantasy. Now I can start putting the pieces of the puzzle together and get into the right flow... Love, M.
P.S. You can also follow me on Twitter: http://twitter.com/mirjambs
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